Publisher: Spiegel & Grau
Publication Date: February 2013
Categories: Personal Memoir, Family Relationships
Source: Random House
Domenica Ruta grew up in a working-class, unforgiving town north of Boston, in a trash-filled house on a dead-end road surrounded by a river and a salt marsh. Her mother, Kathi, a notorious local figure, was a drug addict and sometimes dealer whose life swung between welfare and riches, and whose highbrow taste was at odds with her hardscrabble life. And yet she managed, despite the chaos she created, to instill in her daughter a love of stories. Kathi frequently kept Domenica home from school to watch such classics as the Godfather movies and everything by Martin Scorsese and Woody Allen, telling her, “This is more important. I promise. You’ll thank me later.” And despite the fact that there was not a book to be found in her household, Domenica developed a love of reading, which helped her believe that she could transcend this life of undying grudges, self-inflicted misfortune, and the crooked moral code that Kathi and her cohorts lived by.
With or Without You is the story of Domenica Ruta’s unconventional coming of age—a darkly hilarious chronicle of a misfit ’90s youth and the necessary and painful act of breaking away, and of overcoming her own addictions and demons in the process. In a brilliant stylistic feat, Ruta has written a powerful, inspiring, compulsively readable, and finally redemptive story about loving and leaving.
There's nothing like a memoir by a gal with a messed up childhood to make you feel better about the way you were raised. This wasn't the most horrendous upbringing I've ever read about but With or Without You made me grateful for my "normal" family.
There's neither structure nor routine to life with Kathi. Domenica isn't sure from one day to the next what mood she'll find her mother in. Will she be protective and loving? Will she be out of control with anger?
Besides the mental illness her mother was obviously suffering from there was also drug addiction. And hey, who wouldn't share their OxyContin pills with their young daughter?
|Here you go sweetie, love ya!|
Despite those few issues I would absolutely recommend this book. Read it.